3 Tips For A Better Sex Life
Whether you’re shy, reserved or wild and outgoing, you must, either verbally or nonverbally, communicate with your partner! This is very important and one of the most important things to do if you’re looking to have a better sexual relationsip!
Sex is all about learning what you and your partner like. Sex is about exploration, and if you’ve chosen to include a partner, it is very important and also fun to share that experience with them. You cannot properly share the experience or have any intimacy with someone who you don’t communicate with. Whether it’s telling them all of the things that turn you on, or simply telling them “faster” or “slower”, communication helps both of you figure out how to please each other. Otherwise, it’s not as exciting, as human sexual preferences are infinitely variable.
What feels good to one person, won’t for another; what is appealing to one man or woman, is unappealing to another one. Don’t ever assume that you know everything there is to know about sex, or that you know the one true way to great sex and that you will perform that one way of having sex onto every partner you may have! The most important thing to remember is that there is no one way to have sex because every single person has a special and different sexual “formula” that they prefer and the only way to figure it out is through communication!
Communication can be verbally or non-verbally. You can ask your partner outright what they like or prefer, or if that’s uncomfortable, you can be aware of their reactions to the moves you make in bed. If you’re paying attention, its easy to figure out what someone wants in bed. If they are into slow and soft sex, experiment, go faster and/or harder, If you’re partner is uncomfortable, they’ll give you signs or tell you. Obviously it’s easier to ask up front, but many, many people are too uncomfortable with the topic of sex to be that forward. So switch up your positions, tempo, and rhythms and focus on they’re reactions to find out what turns on your partner and what doesn’t.
Not everyone likes the same thing, and just because your ex was into anal does not mean all women are into it! We are all born with our own sexual comfort zones and it doesn’t change, and if it does change, it’s within our own discoveries (self discovered change), and it happens when we are ready to explore more into our sexuality. or different sides of our own sexuality.
On the other side of this, it is also important for you to be expressive in your enjoyment during sex with your partner. Be appreciative of them when they are doing something you are really enjoying! Be vocal and intimate. grab and pull them deeper into you or closer to you, or reach up and give passionate kisses! It’s never attractive to be a dead in bed. People want to know how good they’re making you feel, and there’s no better reward for good sex than returned passion. Don’t be afraid and don’t be self-conscious to express how you’re feeling; sex has no room for shit like that!. Let the feelings and sensations flow and let it be known through your sounds, your words, and you facial expressions. Your partner will love it!
2. Eye Contact
At first thought, when I say to people that eye contact is important for better sex, I get the the same response: “Isn’t it awkward, weird, uncomfortable! NO. I’m not saying to stare at your partner, for 15 minutes straight. I’m simply saying make prolonged eye contact with them while being intimate. Eye contact, more than anything else, builds intimacy and connects. Your eyes express more emotions than words and gestures combined.
Women especially feel awkward making strong eye contact with men because it come off as a feeling of aggressiveness. If you think about it, we find eye contact to be aggressive even in normal situations. But, if you ask a man what makes a blow job average or outstanding, chances are he will say, “It’s the eye contact.” So there’s a fine line between staring too long and not at all, but I have a 3 to 4 second rule that seems to work well. If you’re having sexual intercourse or oral sex, take a moment to look deeply into your partners eyes for 3 to 4 seconds, and if you want the connection, bare your soul in those moments. It’s difficult to describe how one bares ones soul through a look, but if you just think about an emotion you’d like to convey while looking at your partner, chances are it will come through your eyes. So if you’re truly enjoying the moment, look deeply at your partner with joy and happiness. They will pick up on that emotion. That’s the mystery and beauty of the human connection.
Focus On Your Partner
Focusing on your partner is so important! For a mutual satisfying sexual experience, you must always focus on your partner’s reactions to your sexual moves. Do not just continue to perform the way that you’re doing, and as assume that because a previous s partner enjoyed your sexual technique, that your current sexual partner will enjoy it as well. This also applies to what you see on a porno movie. Just because a woman is paid to pretend she enjoys a sexual move you saw in a porn doesn’t mean that a real woman, or the woman you are with, will enjoy it as well. Always pay attention to how your partner is reacting and responding to what you are doing to them. If they look uncomfortable or even bored, try doing something different.
This is especially important during intercourse, you can learn a lot about what your partner like and dislikes by just watching their body react to the things you’re doing together. A man’s body is more obvious about whether it likes or dislikes something, but women have signs of arousal too; namely, harden nipples, flushed cheeks or faces, and becoming wet.
If you’re having sex and you don’t see these signs of arousal, switch it up and try something else. Don’t keep doing what you’re doing, and wait for your partner to tell you if they dislike something. A lot of people have a hard time speaking on how they feel during sex, so it’s always good to either make the first move yourself and ask “are you enjoying this?” or if they are obviously not, try something else or ask them what they would they like.
Some women believe that voicing their opinion on they’re likes and dislikes, about sex, is a turn off for men. But actually, most men love a woman who knows what she likes and dislikes and who isn’t afraid to tell them straight away!